(If you haven’t yet, head over here to check out what I mean by emotional self-sufficiency and why it matters.)
Learning to become emotionally self-sufficient is really not nothing. It takes some (a TON of) courage.
As with most things, the first step is the most challenging:
Take responsibility.
Fully, unabashedly, and with the knowledge that you are okay just as you are, even as you are learning to do better.
Take responsibility for:
yourself:
your being
your thoughts
your words
your actions
your perceptions
and the stories you tell yourself about you and the world around you.
There is absolutely nothing you can’t accomplish.
Whatever you may make of that statement, I know it to be true of YOU. Really and truly — you can accomplish whatever you like. Your life can look however you want it.
Money in the bank? Check.
Loving, peaceful and harmonious family? No problem.
Work that is fulfilling and enjoyable? Absolutely!
Reliable health? Nothing can keep that away.
Fit and fine bod? Obviously!
But first, you MUST take responsibility for yourself.
Start with compassion. Be gentle. Give yourself grace and love.
Say to yourself “I’ve been doing the best I knew how to do up until now. I’ve done really excellently well at keeping myself alive and safe. Some of those patterns haven’t served me so well though. I’ve been blaming others, my surroundings, and my circumstance. Today, I’m learning to do better. I take responsibility for myself, my thoughts, my words, my actions, and my circumstance. I’m in charge of myself, and I get to decide what kind of experience I want this life to be. I’m excited for this new phase of growth and development in my life!”
See what you notice.
Take a week, a month. What happens? Anything unexpected come up?
As you go, remind yourself that you are taking responsibility for yourself. No one else is responsible for your well being besides YOU. Post it on your desk, your mirror. Make reminders in your phone.
One last thing, just to be clear. Taking responsibility doesn’t mean:
you can’t ask for help,
you won’t have negative emotions,
you should judge yourself harshly (for anything),
you have to suppress negative emotions because you are being positive,
it is easy to release old patterns and thoughts, even though you want to.
What taking responsibility DOES mean is that:
You get to decide on your thoughts,
You get to write your own story about what is going on in any situation,
You get to give yourself the very most compassion you possibly can,
You will learn to be in tune with your emotions and body,
Your courage and confidence will grow exponentially over time,
You can notice negative emotions and learn from them.
This is such a challenging step in the process. It is definitely not nothing.
But what do you want, dear one? What are the discrepancies between how your life is and how you want it to be? Take responsibility and begin to close that gap. I know you can; I know you’ve got this in the bag.
Drop me a line at katherine@hofmannaturopathic.com and let me know how it goes for you!
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